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Mothering is the hardest, most demanding and challenging job you’ll ever have. So it makes sense to approach it the same way you would any other job — with thorough training, the right tools, a well-devised plan, and intense focus. In order to raise children that can manage life well, we must be women who manage life well.

“A woman’s family is held together by her wisdom, but it can be destroyed by her foolishness.”    

~~Proverbs 14:1

“Wow — her children are so well-behaved and she always seems to be so calm and pleasant.” Me, as a new mom, observing my friend Kathy with her 2 girls. And then as I would observe my friend Cheryl with her 2 sons: “her house is always so clean and neat, and she is SO organized.” And so my journey of mothering and life management began … with a treasure and blessing of having dear friends who were just a year ahead of me in mothering, but far enough ahead to give me some practical insight, and a godly example.

Now, 22 years later, with 2 sons grown, and a 14 year old entering some of the most challenging years, I am still so very grateful for these life friends, and for what I’ve learned along the way as a mom, as I’ve shared this journey with other dear women as we’ve encouraged each other all along the way. As I look around in our culture today, I notice there seems to be a void in the mothering landscape around me … where are the forums, the places we can go to share our questions, to get those practical, biblical insights that are so vital for us to survive this journey together? Are we even having these conversations as women and moms?

I don’t know where I would be today as a mother, had it not been for these friends, a wonderful MOPS group at my church, and pastors who invested in our early years of marriage and parenting, sharing from a biblical perspective that has shaped my whole mothering experience. And for the friends along the way, as we have held each other accountable, doing the hard and often unpopular job of mothering – not so we can be our child’s BFF – but so that when our child reaches the day of leaving home, we might finally see a glimmer of hope that we did our job well:)

Mothering is the hardest, most demanding and challenging job you’ll ever have. So it makes sense to approach it the same way you would any other job — with thorough training, the right tools, a well-devised plan, and intense focus. In order to raise children that can manage life well, we must be women who manage life well. In the next few weeks, we’re going to take another look at the basics of life management and mothering. I hope you’ll join the conversation!!

 

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