yellow couch on white wall“Contrary to popular belief, the home, not the church, has been entrusted with the primary responsibility of teaching children the Bible. If giving our children a biblical worldview is the “why” of family-driven faith, giving them biblical instruction is the “what.”

~~ Voddie T. Baucham, “Family-Driven Faith”

So we’re building our families. We’ve established our firm foundation in Christ, we’ve held the plumb line up and made sure our walls are straight and strong in God’s truth, and now we are setting that framework into place. And we are the ones who must follow the blueprint — God’s blueprint for our families. We are terribly mistaken if we think that the church carries the most important role in the training of our children. In fact, I would venture to say that this is where I think our families have gotten off track – we have come to expect our churches to be the place where our kids are entertained and trained and we have seemingly abdicated our role as the primary passers of the spiritual baton of faith to the generation who will follow in our footsteps.

I mentioned in an earlier post that 2 reasons we as parents and families have been invaded by the culture is that:
*We have become Desensitized and Distracted from the Stillness and Strength of the Standard — God’s word.
* And we are substituting other resources for the truth of God’s Word.
A couple more reasons:
* We compare ourselves to other “Christian” families, instead of to God’s Word.
* We use church activities and good works to determine our basis for right-ness instead of the Bible itself.

It’s right that we seek to bring our children to church, to learn God’s word in their Sunday School classes, to sing truths of God in choir and worship, and to be educated in sharing Christ.  But these are like the reinforcements that add to what we should already be doing at home.  I shared in last week’s post about how I used our Family Rules to teach God’s truth and the biblical reasons for the behavior I was seeking to see in my sons. These were basic principles while they were young, but what do we do as they get older and are faced with the onslaught of today’s self-focused, media-driven culture? And moms, this can sneak up on you before you know it! This is why we have to be prepared and ready with the basis of moral absolutes in our own lives or else we won’t know how to teach them to our children.

What can we as parents do? We can help our children capture the culture by Replacing its lies with God’s truth. We must train our children to Rely on the ONE TRUE GOD and filter their moral decisions through the One True Way – God’s Word. We must tell our children over and over again who God is to us. God’s desire is that there be a conscious, consistent transfer of God’s truth from the older to the younger in the family. If there is an unconscious mistake Christian parents make, it is thinking that our children automatically capture our zeal for Christ.

“See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the basic principles of the world rather than on Christ.” Colossians 2:8

We have to pay attention and we have to be pro-active in setting the framework of our families.  I shared last week that our family verse was Philippians 4:8-9. I used this as a practical way to address movies we watched, music we listened to, tv shows, any media we were influenced by, words we spoke, material things we wanted, toys, possessions, etc. We didn’t do it perfectly, but it sure did help to have this resource! Below are a few more verses you might find helpful to use as go-to resources in this time of training your children to live in a world that ever seeks to exalt “self”. Hey — we might even see that we need a training refresher ourselves!


“Stop being mean, bad-tempered and angry. Fighting and harsh words should have no place in your lives.” Ephesians 4:31.
“Don’t use bad language. Say only what is good and helpful … that will give others a blessing.” Ephesians 4:25
“Do nothing from selfishness … regard one another as more important than yourself.” Philippians 2:3
“Lying lips are an abomination (disappointment) to the Lord.” Proverbs 12:22
“Speak the truth in love.” Ephesians 4:15
“Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men.” Colossians 3:23
“Pursue peace with all men.” Hebrews 12:14
“Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ has forgiven you.” Ephesians 4:32
“Jesus replied, “If anyone loves me, he will obey My teaching.” John 14:23